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It seems to me that the most difficult thing about learning Tantra is how to drop the paradigm of American Socialization. In this culture we are socialized to view sex as bad, dirty, and wrong. We see sex used as a weapon, a lure, a trap, and a prize. Our media is filled with images of what we are led to believe is "desirable" sexuality, but we are then chastized to either abstain or use manmade products that keep us from benefitting from the entire experience. Sex is yet another instinct, like eating, sleeping, and playing. We are mammals, and mammals are genetically programmed to have sexual intercourse. This program is necessary in our evolutionary development to promote the species. To agree to raise another human life from babyhood onward is at best an 18 year committment. Nobody would take that challenge (and we would eventually die as a species) if it didn't come with a great lure. So with the information that sex is something you cannot get away from (like food and sleep) comes the responsibility for enabling that instinct in a socially acceptable manner. There are social norms that surround food and sleep, rules that we all follow or risk being embarrassed, like falling asleep in class or eating in a sloppy fashion. But sex is something that we are just now beginning to understand. Why? Because for many years, sex was a taboo subject, not fit for discussion in public. In the last 50 years, the taboos surrounding human sexuality have been falling by the wayside in light of scientific discovery and an equalization of gender disparity within the society. However, in America in the last 50 years, the heavy hand of oppression that kept sexuality in the dark backlashed. Things went an entirely opposite direction. Sex has been made lurid, provocative, and very very public. Sex sells us everything from orange juice to cars. The past few generations have emerged from a cocoon of noninformation to a world where sex had become commercial, with very little time to adjust and evolve. To open up to sexuality thru Tantra is to forget all of your former predjudices about sex. When you forget the things that you once beleived to be true about sex, you can begin experiencing it in the here and now. If you are relaxed and only focussing on the feelings of the present, you will enjoy sexuality so much more. No looking at the future (toward the orgasm) or thinking about the past (allowing baggage to come up). Relaxing all of your muscles when you are in the throws of sexual excitement is an experience all by itself. It will give you the opportunity to really pay attention to what your body is doing in response to the stimulus it is recieving. While some people are afraid it will confuse one's lover to suddenly relax after being entirely tensed up, it is more likely to allow you to verbalize how it makes you feel. Try it once and if you don't like it, go back to your old methods..... © 1999 -2005 Sienna Newcastle |